Hey Ribbons, sorry for my long absence, but I really do prefer to bring you an interesting read and those tend to take time. So, there’s a quote that reads:
“I know what I bring to the table, so trust me when I say I’m not afraid to eat alone.”
When I initially heard this quote, I was like *hmm, hand on chin emoji*, I wholly agree with that! I have never once questioned my worth, but I have been left surprised when people didn’t seem to see it (their loss). I was not surprised because I think highly of myself, no (even though it’s perfectly fine to think highly of yourself, just don’t be arrogant). I was left surprised because when I think about my personality, the way I carry myself, my general attitude towards people and life, as well as my kind nature, I just assumed that others would see those things as something that not everyone offers so easily and reciprocate it or understand that it’s worth holding unto or worth treasuring. Sadly, not everyone will see this and that’s something I had to come to terms with.
I will never ask for anything that I wouldn’t give in return, so it’d baffled me when other people weren’t able to meet me on the same level. That being said, I’m old wise to know that not everyone was raised/is like me, so just because I would do something for someone, does in no way mean that they would do the same for me. Or just because I feel a certain way towards someone, doesn’t mean that they feel the same way towards me. Knowing that I have a big heart and that I’m an emotional person, I’ve learnt that I have to be five times more cautious than others. This is simply because a lot of people look out for themselves alone. Pretty selfish, but in some ways understandable, however I’m just not like that. So as unfortunate as that is, it is something never to be forgotten, because being aware of this fact will most likely be beneficial in your walk of life.
If there is someone in your life that isn’t able to meet you where you are, you have to know your worth and ask yourself if you are prepared to carry on accepting a half-hearted way of living. As women, we have to be brave enough to walk away from uncertainty and refuse to settle for ‘maybe’s’, ‘I don’t know’s’ and ‘I’m not sure’s’. Perhaps these people genuinely ‘don’t know’ and are really ‘not sure’, however, it is not your place to stick around to see if their ‘maybe’s’ change to ‘I’m certain’s’ or if their ‘I don’t know’s’ turn to ‘I’ve never been sure of anything more’. Knowing your self worth is one of the most important things in this world. Once you love yourself enough to know that you deserve assurance and that ultimately, you are the source of your own happiness, you will never settle for half-heartedness.
“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.”