In the spirit of Valentines Day, I decided to write a piece centred around love/relationships because, why not?
Has it ever occurred to you that what you want perhaps isn’t meant for you?
Last year I found myself dating someone who I felt was pretty great. We laughed together, we ate together, we shared things, we bonded over things. In short, we spent quality time together. Everything came to a halt when I enquired about our status and in that exact moment, my heart sunk. Why did it sink? Well, because I really felt like he was it. I thought to myself, ‘We can’t have so much in common and this isn’t it’. Surely, this is my stop’. It wasn’t my stop. I am still on the train riding to God knows where, but an eventful journey nonetheless. You can tell from posts one, two and three that I was in my feelings. (I tried to make it subtle. How did I do?) Lmao!
I’m a head over heart girl. I know this because most times I know what should be done, the thing is when my feelings are so intertwined in a situation, it takes some time to convince my heart what my head already knows. But believe me, I know. If you’re like me and you know that you knowww, don’t waste anytime. The time we spend deliberating why it’s ‘meant to be’ and wrapping our heads round what just happened or what the person said, is an actual waste of time. These moments are usually filled with back and forth conversations of sweet nothings, trying to convince one party, going to see them again for more ‘conversation’ *insert instagram sceptical emoji*. At the end of all that, you still wouldn’t have gotten what you wanted, so why do we waste our time when deep down we know? Well, let’s chuck it up to human behaviour.
I believe in God, but for those who don’t, feel free to replace God with The Universe as your higher power.
1 John 2:19 reads: “They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us.’
In all honesty, we have to know when people’s parts in our stories are over so that we don’t keep watering dead plants. I’ve written this piece not just for you all, but for myself. As much as I strongly believe what I’ve written above, life has a way of surprising us. This post (like all my previous posts), is here to serve as a reminder if ever I find myself wanting something so badly, whilst everything somehow conspires against me. I have to remember that maybe it’s not meant for me. So I hope that this can be a reminder for you too.
On that note, Happy Valentines Day lovelies! As Biggie said at 1:36, spread love it’s the Brooklyn way.
P.S Although this post was focused on a romantic relationship, it relates to pretty much everything. The power of the word maybe is that we’ll never know, but then again, there’s a possibility.
Maybe he isn’t for you.
Maybe she isn’t for you.
Maybe they weren’t for you.
Maybe that job you want so badly isn’t for you.
Maybe, just maybe, it isn’t for you.
What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments below so we can have a healthy discussion.