Missguided Tag

In this day an age, we tend to be all about instant gratification and we want things now, (or yesterday if possible). Our attention span is so short, that even marketing companies recommend that when uploading videos, we put the most important points within the first 5 minutes. Or, just make 5 minute videos altogether because then, you’re guaranteed more views and no distraction halfway through.

 

And that’s where writing comes in to play. Whenever I write an article, I sometimes think to myself I wonder if anyone reads it or finishes reading it and this thought would never have crossed my mind ten years ago. Writing is a skill set that requires time, effort and a lot of thought. A few short years ago, people would pick up a magazine and read it from cover to cover, appreciating the way the writers hyperbolic statements caused them to smile or giggle, or the writers use of onomatopoeia, simply for literary effect. But in this digital age, it is difficult to not get distracted by a 60 second dog clip on instagram, or playing a quick game of candycrush, (I never got into that for some reason) or the grandfather of all distractions, watching TV. People would sooner watch things than read about things. Televised information is undeniably much faster, albeit never as accurate a depiction. I mean, who doesn’t know that all the Harry Potter books are more detailed than the movies? (As good as those movies were, kudos J.K Rowling)

 

So I’m just here in my room writing away whilst wondering to myself, do people still read blogs, magazines, and articles? Or is writing slowly becoming extinct? What do you think? Let me know in the comments below or on my most recent instagram post.

 

 

 

Pull & Bear Top, similar here, Pretty Little Thing Trousers, Missguided Sandals

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So we all have those moments when life gets ahead of us and when we may not know where exactly we’re headed. Well, there’s this blog that I read frequently and you may have heard of her, but if you haven’t she goes buy Zanita Whittington. I thought my platform was super positive until I began reading hers, so that’s why I’d like to share some links that personally helped me as a growing fashion and lifestyle blogger.
I hope it helps you as well! Please leave a comment if so and also let me know what you want to hear/see more of on my blog.

Have a lovely week Ribbons! Xx

 

  • Do you ever feel like you’re putting your ‘all’ into your blog, but not seeing results? Well this post on ‘the secret to growing your following’ will definitely help you.
   
  • So, I know that I personally struggle with goal setting, because they tend to seem so far away and almost impossible (because my goals and dreams are rather big, lol) but after reading this post on ‘the best approach to setting goals and achieving them’ definitely gave me a positive outlook.
 
  • So this post is directed at my fellow blogger girls. The harsh truth that we all need to hear, but not a discouraging one still. ‘Why only 4% of bloggers make it’. As I mentioned, this is not to discourage you all, but to keep you abreast with the harsh reality that comes with blogging. Fashion blogging, to be exact.
 
  • Have you ever been in a difficult situation and just had no idea where to go next? Confused about the how’s, the why’s and the when’s? Well this post on ‘how to make smart choices in difficult situations’ will definitely be helpful to you.
  Hope you’re all having a great start to the week and if you'd love to learn A LOT more on life and entrepreneurship, head over to Zanita Studio! xx  

Missguided Dress, Mango Bag

 

For the past couple months I’ve written posts that focus on bettering oneself and pretty much believing that there is more out there for you and I’m really pleased with the responses I’ve gotten via various social media platforms. Sometimes when you’re going through something you tend to think you’re alone, but it turns out that everyone else has either been through it or is going through it.

 

Well, I thought I’d add on to this instagram post that I uploaded two days ago about ‘feelings’. So I’m a pretty emotional person and that’s how it’s been since I was little. I would tear up whilst simply talking about something that someone did that was so touching, or something/someone that hurt me or just memories that I held really close to my heart. I used to absolutely HATE it. I would get emotional whilst speaking to my mum about it, asking her why I always cried during such moments. I went on about how people would think I’m weak if I continue on like that. Needless to say, she hit me with some knowledge and I didn’t question it any longer. I used to think that having deep feelings or always tearing up was a sign of weakness, but then I realised that the only reason why I get emotional when thinking of how things once were (be it a couple days, a few months or years ago) is because it was very important to me and really meant something to me. So why should I feel ashamed or feel as though I’m being ‘weak’ by reacting to a situation in my own way? It’s so silly.

 

Anyway, this is a short message to say that if you’re like me, and you have a heart that feels things so deeply; just know that by no means are you considered ‘weak’. We just have to embrace it and perhaps just know that people like us have to be extra careful who we let into our lives. These days, almost everyone needs extra vetting, so vetted they will be.

 

Hope you have a lovely week Ribbons!

 

 

 

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Amente T Shirt, Missguided Skirt, (camel) ZARA Heels, similar here, Mango Backpack



Outfits
HOPEFUL
31st March 2017 0

Hey guys, so spring has finally ‘sprung’ and I couldn’t be happier. If you read my blog, you’ll know by now that I’m not a fan of the colder months (which is more than half of the UK’s weather. Tell me why I live here again?)

 

Anyway, so tomorrow is my birthday and as happy as I am, I also tend to get nervous leading up to it (mostly when I have something planned). You see, I’m a very demure person who loves her own company and birthday’s involve a lot of attention and I sometimes nervousness strikes. Lol! These memes (1 & 2) describe what I tend to feel, can anyone else relate? Ha!

More importantly, I’m really looking forward to the amazing things that are in store for me from here on out (Got to speak it into existence guys). This year started off great, but then it plateaued a little bit sometime in February. I found myself crying, upset and so disappointed in a situation. At the time I thought I wouldn’t be able to cope because I felt that I had just lost something I deemed so special, which in turn made me really sad and low. Although, when I look back on it, my feelings of disappointment were understandable, but it clearly wasn’t the end of the world.

 

This is all to say, if you’ve not had a great start to the year, or perhaps you had a great start and then a rocky moment (like me), don’t fret. Remember that spring is here now and it is a time where vegetation begins to appear, flowers are beginning to bloom and things generally blossom. It’s pretty much a new beginning and genuinely my favourite time of year (not too cold, not too hot). So, I would like to encourage you all to look at this moment as a fresh start to whatever sets your soul on fire and whatever drives and motivates you. Everything before now is in the past and you can choose to walk confidently towards your goals and to the things and people that actually matter.

 

Happy New Month Ribbons! X

Side note: One lovely thing about having my birthday on April fools day is that absolutely nobody forgets. In all my years, no one has ever forgotten and I must say, it’s pretty sweet 🙂

 

 

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ASOS Cold Shoulder Body, worn (here) H&M Skirt, similar here,

Missguided Heels (sold out)

I don’t tend to let things get to me, but lately almost everything has been getting to me. I’ve been a bit down with regards to my career, my friends, a guy and just life in general. It really upset me because I rarely get these episodes, if anything I tend to be the ‘helping hand’ and the ‘shoulder to lean on’ for others, so when I began feeling this way, I felt as though I’d let myself down. (Using the word feeling and felt so close together. I swear my emotions are beyond me).
Things in my life were going a certain way and I was content and genuinely happy but suddenly, said things came to a halt which resulted in me being low-key off balance. I constantly found myself over-thinking, asking a multitude of questions, and contemplating life in general.

Let it be know, that was not a healthy way of living. The mental fatigue alone was pretty crushing and I didn’t think all this minor change would overwhelm me as much as it did. Albeit it did, but I rode the wave. If you’re ever in a rut or you simply just feel overwhelmed at life, the best thing I have found is to feel it. By ‘feel it’, I mean, let it fully go through you mentally/physically. Eat if you need to, cry if you need to (like me), pray if you need to (also like me), travel if you need to. Just do things that you believe will aid in your overcoming of this overwhelming and somewhat confused state. Sometimes upsetting things happen, and we ask ourselves why, because you know, good things should happen to good people right? Wrong.

One thing I’ve learnt is that life comes at you hard and fast and I’m sure in the not-so-distant future, I’ll look back on these past few weeks and wonder what even was overwhelming me. Either that, or i’ll realise that the things I cried over don’t really amount to anything (in the grand scheme of things). That’s the beauty of life. With enough time and focus on your passions, everything tends to get better because you’re living for you. There’s a quote that was a bit tough to come to terms with (because I was still a bit stuck on my previous ‘happiness’ and ‘contentedness’ before things shifted) which reads:
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”

 

I write this in past tense not to say that I am completely fine with lifes current changes,

but I am definitely on my way there, because I'm kind of a little trooper when it comes to tough and tough-ish times.

Hope you can all 'troop' with me! :)

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Missguided Lace Up Dress, similar here and here,

Stan Smith Trainers

 

I struggle with being proactive during the Autumn/Winter months, which is more than half of the year in Britain, so I looked it up and it’s called SAD. Seasonal Affective Disorder. It’s pretty much a case of severe winter blues or winter depression. However, I prefer not to use the term ‘depression’ unless I’m sure it’s actually THAT deep, which it isn’t. In my case, I’m not able to give certain tasks my full attention without getting restless 15 minutes in. I also get distracted with social media, where I see individuals in warmer climates (where I would love to be) living their lives. Then there’s my lack of hydration in the form of pure water. Not tea, (which I drink a lot of) not juices, not fizzy drinks, just pure water. I find it difficult to drink water in winter. What can I say; I’m just not thirsty.

Due to all of the above, I’m not able to achieve all the things I would like to achieve in a week. I make a plan the day before, but I wake up late (on the day’s I’m not getting up for work) due to being cosy and knowing that when I emerge from underneath my duvet, I will be hit with the cold. It also does not help that I’m not in my ideal occupation. I mean, I’m working towards it (as hard as I can work with SAD) but I’m not IN IT right this second. Patience. Another thing that I promised myself I would have more of come 2017. I’m getting there, but it might take a while. Which is really what patience is all about.
Things taking a while,
You taking a while,
Life taking a while,
A while.

All that being said, I intend to put the ‘best’ of me out into the universe and I must say, it does feel good knowing that you’re trying your very best. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like your best, but if you know there’s actually no more you can do with the resources you have, then let me be the one to let you in on a little secret. You are trying your best. We all have different definitions of ‘bests’. Don’t fool yourself though, if you’re not happy with your situation, then really look inward and ask yourself if you’re doing all you can do to get ahead. I’m a very ambitious person, so when I am not able to do something due to X,Y,Z, I get frustrated. Genuinely frustrated. I don’t believe the world owes me anything, but I believe I deserve the best, which is why I try my best. For myself. You should too.

 

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Missguided Bodycon Dress, Socks As Boots

 

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A BIT ABOUT ME
7th January 2017 0

Hey Ribbons! Hope you’ve all been doing very well and hitting your goals! I’ve been busy with the creation of my womenswear line. Remember I mentioned it briefly here? Well, it takes a lot of time, effort and expertise, some of which I do have, so watch this space.

 

So I was featured on the NISM YPro website, which promotes young Nigerian professionals who are pretty much carving out a path for themselves. I was very pleased when I was asked to share my story because if you know me, I prefer not to over-share and rather just give the bare minimum. However, I am embracing sharing a bit more of myself. Anyway, when I spoke to the team over the phone, I got quite emotional whilst sharing my journey so far, but after it was all put together, I must say I am beyond happy with the outcome. Below is a litle snippet and for the full article, which doesn’t read from the beginning, so if you would like to read the full article, please head over to NISM YPro.

 

…“I was in this industry where everyone had all these amazing things and I just couldn’t afford it. I really wondered how I could take myself to the next level if I didn’t have the right bag or the right shoes.”

 

It took some frank words from her mother to counter these negative feelings.

“My mum said, ‘If you have all those things now, what will be there to aspire to?’.”

Since then, Nengi has decided to march to the beat of her own drum. She is a firm believer that success means different things to different people, and one’s focus should remain centred on being one’s best self – and not competing with others. One of her favourite quotes is “Comparison is the thief of joy” – a mantra she lives her life by. Still, Nengi is human, and she still has days when she wonders if she should have taken a more traditional path.

 

“I was in this industry where everyone had all these amazing things and I just couldn’t afford it. I really wondered how I could take myself to the next level if I didn’t have the right bag or the right shoes.”

It took some frank words from her mother to counter these negative feelings.

“My mum said, ‘If you have all those things now, what will be there to aspire to?’.”

Since then, Nengi has decided to march to the beat of her own drum. She is a firm believer that success means different things to different people, and one’s focus should remain centred on being one’s best self – and not competing with others. One of her favourite quotes is “Comparison is the thief of joy” – a mantra she lives her life by.

Still, Nengi is human, and she still has days when she wonders if she should have taken a more traditional path.

“I’ve had those moments when you rethink it and wonder if this is going to go anywhere.”

This is where a strong support system comes in handy. Nengi credits friends and family with giving her the final push to take her career to the next level. From crafting unique and edgy outfits by putting high street pieces together, Nengi’s next goal is to design and produce her own garments.

“My friends were always telling me, ‘Why aren’t you designing? Why aren’t you making your own clothes?’ Even my mum told me, ‘You have a sewing machine, why aren’t you using it?’.”

“One day, I saw a top in Zara and continue

 

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The beginning of each year usually brings about declarations of ‘change’ and various ways in which people intend to make the year ahead different from the last. Promising stuff.

 

‘New Year, New Me’. A phrase you must have heard countless times.

 

I’ve seen a myriad of tweets and captions that quite literally state how crap 2016 was, which is true in a lot of ways.

Hashtag Harambe,

Hashtag Brexit,

Hashtag Donald Trump

Etc.

 

All external things that do not directly affect me, but sad and upsetting nonetheless. Two Thousand and Sixteen had it’s ups and downs, (like every other year) but more ups than downs for me. I travelled to beautiful cities that I had never been to before, (one of them being eleven hours away, so I’m super grateful for journey mercies.) I made new friends, I saw my beautiful cousin get married and I made a big career decision that will come to fruition this year.

Here’s hoping and praying.

 

I believe that 2017 is the year that I will push boundaries and inspire emotion through all that I do. It’s definitely not a case of ‘new year, new me’, because in all honesty, I love who I’m becoming, but that being said, there’s something about this year that feels promising. I strongly believe that it is going to be a year of further achievements, success and unwavering blessings. A quote that comes to mind when I’m feeling down or dishevelled is ‘The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”

 

I pray that you have all had an exceptional start to the New Year and if you haven’t, remember that each day is actually a new beginning. If you are blessed enough to open your eyes every morning, then you are winning at life.

 

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Missguided Mini Dress, H&M Suede Shearling Jacket, similar here and here

Shoes (actually socks, outside a shoe, ha!)



Whenever I complain about something trivial, I pause, take it back and remember that I am alive and breathing. It’s this new thing I do. Life has been quite overwhelming recently, which is the reason for my absence on Runway Ribbons. I apologise and promise you all that I will do so much better.

I absolutely love my blog. I put a lot of time and effort into it, from it’s general aesthetics, to the quality of my images, to my actual content. I will be more frequent with my lovely and uplifting Thursday Thoughts, I will be giving you all more of my opinions on everyday life situations, I will be updating you on things I do in the fashion world etc

I have a lot going on at the moment, but I see that as a good thing, because it means that when I reveal all to you, you will understand why I wasn’t able to keep up to date with Runway Ribbons. Please leave me comments and let me know what sort of content you would like to see from me.

 

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Missguided Choker Top, similar here, Band of Gypsies Shorts, similar here and here

Mango Strappy Shoes, similar here

 

There’s a quote that reads ‘Be fearless in whatever sets your soul on fire.’ I love that quote.

Honestly, it relates so much to my current situation right now and I’ll tell you why. So if you know me very well, you’ll know that I’m one of those people that cringe’s about a lot of things. Specifically things that have to do with self-promotion and putting myself out there. I now know the reason behind this, but before I didn’t. I spoke to my brothers about this fact and they admitted that they’re the same, which made me relieved that at least two people get it. You see, I grew up shy and when you grow up shy, you’re just not used to wanting to be the centre of attention, so that’s one reason.

Secondly, I think part of me has this fear of what others will think about/of me if I for lack of a better word ‘do the most’. Let’s say I upload a post that is a bit controversial, or I leave a mini speech under one of my instagram photos, (regardless of what the topic is) or just generally putting myself out there, I feel too ‘showy’ and uncomfortable. But what even is that?! Why do I regard that as ‘showy’ or why does that bring me discomfort?! I mean, if you’re trying to get somewhere and be somebody, sometimes you’ve got to be ‘showy’. A male friend of mine left me a really long voice note (after I expressed how I realised that this ‘issue’ of mine was hindering my progress),

which really made things clearer for me. In order to cut a long story short, I need to be more fearless in showing the world my talents and what I’m made of. I am well aware of all that I have to offer and the thoughts of others or the fact that I cringe every time I add ridiculous amounts of hashtags to my photos should not bother me. At the end of the day I’m doing this for me and no one else.

No one will ever ride harder for you than yourself.

If not me who, if not now, when

 

Missguided Mesh Leotard, similar here and here,

TOPSHOP Satin Shorts, similar here, Missguided Heels, similar here and here

   

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Sometimes I wonder where the girl who wore different colours of the rainbow went. Can you believe that yellow was once my favourite colour? I mean, I still love the colour yellow but I reserve it for swimwear or holiday outfits. In fact, I reserve bright colours for holidays and times when the garment in topic genuinely looks better in a colour other than black, white or nude.

 

In my daily life I tend to wear muted tones as seen here, here, here and here. A couple months ago I actually mentioned how I was in all black at the beginning of summer. It was too funny to me how I had changed so much within a few short years.

 

I usually tag the brands I’m wearing on instagram and after uploading the second picture of this outfit on instagram with no tags; I suddenly got a lot of direct messages on where my top could be purchased. Well, if you’ve been following my blog recently, you’ll remember this post where I mentioned that I have started creating and designing my own clothes, so to add to that, this lovely bubble top was designed and sewn by me and I will be launching a womenswear collection soon. So if you would like to keep up to date with the process and the eventual launch, then please follow my page here.

 

Wishing you all a lovely weekend!

 

Nengi Willie-Pepple Top, TOPSHOP Joni Jeans, similar here & here,

Missguided Strappy Heels (sold out) similar here, love this here

Photography: Sonya Metzler

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‘Smile!’ Says Sonya, as I proceed to awkwardly smile.
I’ve never been big on smiling in pictures and that was because I wore braces for about five years when I was younger. I preferred to smize (smile with your mouth closed and eyes. FYI, Tyra Banks coined that term.) and I did it pretty well if I say so myself. I got so used to smizing that it was my ‘go to’ look when photographs were being taken.
I wish I could share my GCSE school photo with you all, you’d see what I mean. I also used to turn my head slightly to the right. Anyone who knew me then can vouch for this pose. It was ‘The Nengi’ pose.

I suppose as young children we always wanted to look our best and we were either comparing ourselves to others or being compared to others by someone else. The pressures for youngsters are quite a lot I must say. Hang in there kiddos, there’s much more to life and you will honestly all be fine. As a young adult I am more carefree with myself and I don’t have just ‘The Nengi’ pose, I have multiple poses. I genuinely feel as though I can pull off a ‘smize’, a laugh, a grin, a chuckle etc. Just be happy with all that you are and work with your natural beauty and smile more. (Like Sonya always tells me) I honestly believe we are as beautiful as we believe ourselves to be.

Anyway, I hope you can all feel comfortable enough within yourselves to be free. Don’t take everything too seriously, always be kind to people, (even those who may be unkind to you) smile often, laugh often, don’t compare yourselves to others, and ultimately, live your life like it’s golden. (One of my personal mantra’s)

 

Missguided Knitted Jumpsuit, ASOS Barely There Heels, similar here,

Moschino Clutch, similar here, Nixon Watch

Photography: Sonya Metzler

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