Pictures can be so deceiving. I cannot even tell you how freezing it was on the day when these images were captured, and yet I look like I’m just taking some quick photos before hoping into my Audi R8, on my way to brunch.
You see, that’s the thing about life, as humans we tend to show the world what we want them to see. We want our viewers to perceive only the very best lives because that’s where we feel most comfortable.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong in doing this might I add, however the problem only arises when people assume that our lives are a bed of roses. Putting the spotlight specifically on me now, my life is definitely not a bed of roses, but neither is it a bed of thorns. There are about five dozen roses, a dozen weeds, and patches of moss here and there, but absolutely no thorns. ‘Thorns’ in this write up are considered the worst and thankfully, I don’t have any thorns that I can speak of in my life. But never assume its all rosy guys.

Whenever I look at pictures on instagram (the only social media platform I religiously use) I never have ‘fomo’ (fear of missing out). Reason being, my positive nature. My feelings don’t automatically jump to jealousy or sadness; rather they jump to inspiration, ideas and looking to the future. Amy has pictures of pineapples, sun, sand and scenery but I don’t look at that and get down in the dumps, (although it’s currently cold as fudge in London) I see it and think ‘Nengi is going to have SEVERAL pineapples, this summer, after she works her butt off and saves her money.’ We’ve all just got to have that reason to believe that we too are one day going to experience all the wonderful things that life has to offer. I admit, I am a complainer. I complain about where I am but that’s only because I know how much I have to offer, but I’ve learnt to complain less, and rather use the beauty and success OF others as motivation.

You just never know what people are going through behind clothes doors, so never feel left out and wishing you were where they are. You will get where they are and you will by God’s grace, surpass where they are too. I know I began with a simple example of how freezing it was whilst taking these photographs, but when you look at the bigger picture, it all relates. After they were shot, I put on my vans and went for brunch. (You thought I skipped out on the food didn’t you? No sir! I just didn’t head there in an Audi, but rather in the sometimes smelly underground).


Photography: Mintt Phototgraphy

TOPSHOP Suit Set, (sold out), NEXT Over The Knee Boots, similar here, ASOS Market Place Rings

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Bloglovin


  • Lovely look and I agree that FOMO only affects you if you let it. I enjoy seeing people have fun, its something to aspire to! 🙂

    Marveling-Mind? | Instagram | Bloglovin’ ??

    • Exactly! It should always be seen as an inspiration and motivation!
      Thanks Feyi! x

  • Alma

    I totally relate with doing a “glamorous” shoot in heels and shorts in the cold and changing to sneakers and sweatpants as soon as the you hear the last shutter click for the day. And as a fan/slave of monochrome, I love this!

    • I’m glad someone else can relate! lol
      Thanks girl! xx

  • Samantha

    I can relate to this one for sure! Since the winter in NYC I try to avoid only taking sweater shots, but it is FREEZING!