Forgiveness to me is a tricky topic, because although I’m a Christian, I don’t really believe in forgive and forget. I forgive, but I rarely forget. Not because I don’t want to, but because my mind has a power of it’s own. However, I particularly love this quote because it makes a whole lot of sense. It doesn’t touch on forgetting, just solely on forgiving and that is the main crux of this post. I’m going to quickly sum up a personal experience, for you to fully understand why forgiveness is key.
I struggled with forgiving someone who had misjudged me and generally behaved irrational in a situation that involved me. The person just became very mean towards me, and when certain words came out of their mouth, I couldn’t even comprehend. I was so angry and upset that I would regularly re-play the event over and over and over in my head to see if I was at fault and to try and understand how things went from zero to a hundred. I even went to close friends and shared my feelings, because I felt the situation I was in was blown way out of proportion, so I wanted different opinions. Before I was fully able to forgive this person and let all that was said go, it took a little while of my own personal reflection as well as few articles on forgiveness (never feel ashamed to read articles or books to help you with whatever you’re struggling with. It really isn’t a big deal) and moving forward.
A few years ago, (when this little incident occurred) if someone had told me I would be writing this post, I would have laughed in their face. (I was clearly filled with anger then, lol) Anyway, the quote that REALLY made me switch from resentment to contentment was this: “In order not to be offended, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date. Most of it, even when aimed directly at us, has nothing to do with us. Usually, it has more to do with them. All of that said, almost nothing is personal. When we know nothing is personal, we don’t end up feeling abused. So called abuse can only happen when we believe what the other person is saying.”
It’s obviously never going to be easy when you feel really hurt or let down, but just remember that life goes on, so we should learn to let go and let God. There is always something to smile about.
Have a beautiful weekend Ribbons!